Stop Saying Sorry When I Have Nothing For Which To Apologize (read all 2 entries…)
Breakin' the habit... 3 years ago

This is more challenging than I expected. I hadn’t realized how habitually I say “sorry”. I am empathetic by nature, but find myself saying sorry about how others are feeling, doing, thinking. I think what I truly meant to say is “that sucks” or “bummer” etc., but “sorry” is what comes out. Several times I’ve caught myself and heard in response, “It’s not your fault”. These are the reminders to weigh my words more carefully and articulate more clearly. “Sorry” really should only be spoken when needing to apologize for a wrong I committed. So, no where near being able to cross this one off the list.



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Sigh

I too seem to have this problem but over the last two years I’ve gotten better reserving the “sorries” for when I mean it. If I can’t stop myself I call Don & tell him I’m sorry because he won’t tell anyone else, lol!! :)

What might help...

is if I start saying “I apologize” rather than “I’m sorry” because it conveys something totally different. If I can take that extra moment to hear it in my head, I might be able to stop it from poppin’ out of my mouth. I do think this is an important step, because then when I do say “I’m sorry” about something it will carry more weight in its meaning.

As a side note, I also say “ouch” or “ow” when I bump into something, even if it doesn’t really hurt. I may have to add that to my list as well:)

Too much sorry

My husband and I have found that this is a huge problem that we have. We are always apologizing for things that aren’t our fault or saying sorry if we even disagree sometimes! We have started trying to say “I empathize with what you’re going through” or “I’m sorry that happened to you” instead of putting the blame on ourselves when we didn’t actually do anything. It’s actually comical sometimes the amount we say “I’m sorry” and we’re really trying to keep an eye out for it and say what we really mean instead of what we think we should say.

It’s nice to know that someone has the same issue as us!

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