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Example. 3 years ago

Something else that hit it on the head for me:

My wonderful psych teacher gave an example that a self-actualized person, if angry with someone over something relatively small, might react with an “I’m angry at you now. Give me some time to myself to be angry and get over it, and in a few days, it won’t bother me anymore.”

The bells went off in my head, because this was, almost word-for-word how I liked to deal with things. Most people though, thought it was strange and were a bit puzzled and put-off by it.

Apr 14, 2006, 09:11PM PDT | 2 cheers

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sagittarian

that's a a great example

i’m trying to do the same….it was only recently that i realized it. i was still fufilling more basic needs, but now that i have, i want to get there too :)

Apr 14, 2006, 09:15PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

Claire

Thank you :)

At the time, as I was writing all of the info down, I was very surprised at how much those traits that we were looking at were among the qualities of some of the people I admired most.

Unfortunately, the more I move toward it, the more impatient and dismayed I become with immature adults—which is also something I need to work on.

Apr 14, 2006, 09:23PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

sagittarian

i so understand

i feel that way, too, sometimes. like i have a few friends (and admittedly, we are all adults!), but one in particular who i just have no more patience for because of the way they are choosing to look at their own lives, or life in general. we all have room to improve….

good luck! and keep posting :)

Apr 17, 2006, 06:40AM PDT | Respond to this

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Feb 13, 2008, 09:28AM PST

Claire

It's definitely frustrating.

I’m finding that the best ways to deal with it is mercy and understanding. Admittedly, most people do need a good kick in the ass, but all you can really do is separate yourself from their B.S., and if they ask for your help or advice, give it.

At the moment, I’m a supervisor, and about half of my supervisees are late-teen/early twenties girls and I find that little gives me as much satisfaction as setting an example and giving them good advice when they ask.

Unfortunately, most people over 30 have been they way they are for so long that it’s unlikely that they’ll change and the best you can do is give your opinion when asked.

Feb 17, 2008, 10:48PM PST | Thread | Respond to this

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that's a a great example

i so understand

It's definitely frustrating.

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