this requires more will and attention than i thought. i am not a kind person. it’s easy for me to be nice, but there’s a difference between the two. i think of kindness as deeper, more compassionate. i am nice because i want to be perceived well. kindness should be about the other person.

on the selfish side, monks who practice loving kindness meditation, where they try to feel real compassion for all living beings, end up with different brains from the rest of us. they are more joyful, and also more empathetic. maybe this goal and my meditation goal should be linked…