I’m so scared to death of change always have been and I think I can safely say I always will. Ever since I was little we always moved houses half way through the school year so I never got the chance to really make roots and find life-long friends, instead I ended up going to 6 different primary and secondary schools, then I finally made home, only to move half way during college. I think thats why I dread university so much, the thought of having to start again with people whos attitudes and values may not be anything like mine. How am I meant to discover myself if I can’t even discover my lecture halls in the mass maze that is uni, this is such a daunting thought. All my friends have tried to reassure me that uni will be an experience of a life time… all my friends have failed.
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Harijan Romantic Self-Knowing Believer
it is difficult.
i have been to 3 universities in the past two years. it’s been hard, but the jumping around has helped me learn a lot about the world and myself.
every institute is different. it has it’s own culture and own values and depending what it’s like will depend on how you fit into it. and a lot of what the university is like reflects on how the town is like. it depends on your personality, your willingness to be open, what you look for in people and then everything else you really have no control or ownership to. the best thing to do is to go to a university that is in a place that seems right to you. comfortable. i went to an art school for a year and i made friends SO FAST. i fell in love with baltimore and the school and the teachers and everyone and everything! THAT was probably the best year of my life. then i went to the university of rhode island. i already didn’t like the place so much. i didn’t care for the people so much. and sure enough i had the hardest time making friends and meeting people. everyone was into partying and getting drunk every night, it was gross. i hated it. no one took school seriously, and no one knew how to have fun without being intoxicated. from this point i had to make a decision. either i stay here and ride it out, or i make a change for the better. i realized that staying there i would have drowned in my own stagnation. so i left and came here. to the university of hawai’i. this place is actually a balance between art school and URI. it took me a while to make friends, but i started making friends. and i started making plenty. beautiful people. beautiful town and university culture… this was a good change and i harmonize so much better with this place.
so that’s what kind of advice i’d offer you. or just things to think about. it is hard and you are only in control of so much. if you feel it isn’t the place for you and not the people for you, then if you have the power to leave, then do it. if you can’t for some reason, then you have to learn to build your own world. you can always make at least one good friend. the strength of two doubles your capacity and potential and from there you make your own subculture and invite anyone in who wants to be a part of it. no matter where you go, there is always some awesome person waiting to be found. for someone at the university, you will be that awesome person for someone… and they will be for you.
good luck!
