improve my character (read all 8 entries…)
It's been a year. Am I better? 3 years ago

I’m probably no better than I was a year ago. No, I take that back. I haven’t stood on my tiptoes as a yell at a car rental twerp just to show him I’m an amazon woman. I haven’t made anyone passout because I made them upset. I haven’t been so passive aggressive with my husband that he calls me a fuck ass.

But…in a year, I have:

1) Followed a woman in a Lexus who was behind me and honked really long because I turned (into a residential street where kids play) too slowly. Scared the woman because I was following her.

2) Was a complete bitch to our incompetant janitorial company after I had fired them.

3) Got mad at the bank because they wouldn’t give me a printed record with my balance on it after they had let me deposit cash into my account, because I didn’t have my ATM card with me. I dumped my entire purse onto the teller’s counter so I could look for the card. Didn’t find it, but left lint on the counter.

I try to give a peace sign to the nimrods who cut me off or are bad drivers. And I’ve tried to be a kinder, more patient person.

But has my character improved? Probably not much.



Comments:

gee...

Sounds like you want to be a bit more assertive. I spent many years being angry, and worked against me: it made me dangerous, unpleasant. (Not that I’m not unpleasant still, for other reasons :-)
Be assertive, by all means, when it’s called for.
But character: “Character is the ability to carry out a worthy decision after the pleasure of making that decision is past”: if you’ve got that, that’s wonderful!
If you’re getting walked on, etc, I think you would want to get better at communicating, especially from times when you are angry and upset and really want to express yourself and where expressing yourself will improve things.
That’s a real talent and a very useful and welcome skill.
Good luck.


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