I seem to hurt people without trying sometimes. I’m not talking about those “little” things. Generally, I’m pretty good about not doing that.

My problem seems to be that I wind up hurting people without trying because I can’t seem to figure out what works and what doesn’t or what I want vs what I don’t, or what I feel I deserve vs what I don’t. I also tend to set aside what I want or need to do in order to make others in my life happy. Eventually, though, that comes back to haunt me because somewhere along the way I have to do things for myself that the other person isn’t (other people aren’t?) too happy about.

I keep thinking I must be passive/aggressive and that maybe I just need to be more aggressive than passive. Whatever that balance is, it eludes me.