How I did it: Obviously I could not do this for each person! Not right off the bat like that. But finding something good with the people you regularly see/work with can make interactions easier if they're mostly unpleasant. Focus in on that area and utilize it and their role involving that trait to maximize your enjoyment of them. it helps, with that tip you can work with anyone a little bit easier.
For my close friends really examining what was most beautiful was surprising. Sometimes it was also the thing I hated most! Actually, quite often. And sometimes you never truly examine someone you just enjoy. You appreciate them more when you examine them for the good and realize "My goodness-this person is so much more than I noticed!" It's easy to realize the unpleasant, but those who we enjoy we tend not to pay much mind to.

Lessons & tips: 1. Open your ears before your mouth. I'm a horrible listener, but to accomplish this goal I had to shut up and observe.,
2. Forget freshman psych. One, it's annoying, Two it's obvious-go beyond and out of the box.
3. Don't be too quick on the draw to label.
4. Don't be afraid of cliches. They can be cliche for a reason, and yes, I do realize that's a cliche :)

Resources: My ears and eyes

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