That was by far, the most important part of getting married. I had know him for over a year, and thus, as soon as we were dating, it was an easy, logical, even assumed step to marriage, because we both knew what we wanted at that point. 

I also had to realize that when my head kept telling me that he was perfect for me, it didn't matter how "in love" with someone else I "felt" like I was. The "other" person hurt me, and even though I loved him, I knew that we weren't "perfect" for each other. 

I don't believe in perfect people, but it took a while before I realized that I would love the person who I "logically" felt would best fit with me as a married person.

I think I was so stuck on not just using logic for a relationship, that I wouldn't let it have any part. Which was just stupid. Yes, you should love someone, but it definitely isn't just a feeling. It's an action, and a process, and something that you consciously do, not just fall into. 

That being said, after I had logically contemplated the relationship for a long time, I knew that although we may argue from time to time, we were both such a perfect "fit", that loving him would be easy.

And that makes the marriage so much easier too!

You may love someone, but it benefits you to not "just" have the emotion. Sounds so simple, and love can surely do great things, but how much easier (and it's not easy to begin with!), does it make your married/love life if you truly match with another person logically as well!