How I did it: What it comes down to is that I grew into a person that realized that I deserve better.  I know that I was willing to do whatever I could to put things back together.  I did not create this situation, she cheated on me.  I leave with my head held high.  I made the attempt, proverbially held my hand out for her.  I want her to get help for her problems, even if I'm no longer in her life.  I know going through the divorce process will not be easy but I have the support of my friends and family to lean on.

Lessons & tips: Take the high-road, control your anger and direct the hurt and stress in your life into something productive.  I chose to start running and working out.  I've already lost 20lbs. and I plan on losing a few more.  Don't regret the good times in the past but understand that you can't live in the past.

Resources: When you have found out that your spouse has cheated on you get a lawyer, quick.  Your next appointment should be with the therapist.  I know it's going to take quite a bit of counselling for me as well to feel "normal" again but I'll get there.

Apr 21, 2011, 07:18AM PDT | 0 comments | 7 cheers