How I did it:  My ex and I were togther  no and off for almost 5 years. It was very hard to do but it was the best thing I can do for me especially knowing I wanted to go forward with myself, and my future. I stopped our friendship first and foremost because that's one of the easiest ways of people getting back together with ex I told him how I felt about us in the past, in the future, and now. I don't need him tot hink he has a hold on me. he doesn't. I don't need to confide in my ex about the guys I'm dating, deepest feelings, and spend time with him even as friends when I know that the feelings still there from me. I know that he really wants to be with me but he did me wrong and 2 chances is enough if he's not willing to work harder for the third. It's didn't work our the first two times so a thrid to me doesnt make a difference. I stopped clalling and all contact through facebook, and text messages. I simply blocked his numbers out my phone,facebook, and didn't answer door when he tried to stop by my house in suprise without telling me. When I see him no hard feelings I say hi, how are oyu, and KEEP IT MOVING!:)I learned to open up more and not be so shy about my feelings of possibly being hurt by a guy and take chances moving forward with someone else. I'm better, taking things day by day, and no rush to be in love! When it's ready it will come to me.Right now I'm gofucsing on graduating this summer, starting my carrer, loving singlehood, and being independent.

Lessons & tips:

• Stop all contact
• Don't stress it
• More fish in the sea 
• Realize you did al the possible and more to make it work but it didn't, so it's time to let go
• Get out more with your close friends, don't stay in and pout. Stay busy.
• Don't pick up the phone.
• Forgive thier mistakes and move on
• Start a new hobby to get your mind off your ex.I signed up for belly dancing classes! 
• Don't force somethig to work with someone if you're putting more work in than they're doing

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Jun 02, 2011, 01:14PM PDT | 0 comments | 8 cheers