How to risk getting hurt in a relationship by Niel

"Not only risking, but actually getting hurt, was a most instructive experience. I"

How I did it: I found someone interesting and let the situation develop. We developed a nice regular schedule of seeing each other. I got hooked, and as soon as I knew this, I opened my heart a little. The setting wasn't very romantic, but I was determined to say things as I saw them.I got rejected, sweetly but firmly. 

Lessons & tips:

  • The hurt really hurts.
  • The hurt is much, much better than the 'what if' of not risking anything.
  • Don't practice a speech beforehand. Conversations never go the way you imagine them.
  • During the conversation there will be little bits of ambiguity. Don't let these fool you into imagining possibilities where expressly there are none.

Resources:

  • Discreet friends I could share my dreams/illusions with.
  • Provocative friends who poked me along.


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Jun 08, 2011, 03:53PM PDT | 2 comments | 17 cheers


Comments:

elanski is amazed - yup that's what they're doing!

well, yes, but. . . .

You just never know!

There’s a lot to the idea that what you toss out to the world can and will come back to you!

(i’m thinking you might already know this!)

...we all just wonder when. . . . :-)

Jun 08, 2011, 06:51PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

Niel is doing whatever it takes ...

Oh, yes!

You never know. I agree that what you toss to the universe can come back to you. But you have to toss it! And that means acting like you mean it.

Jun 08, 2011, 11:39PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer


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