How to have a totally different life by this time next year by oblea100x

"From preppy girl living at home to sturdy independent woman"

How I did it: I'm so cheesy :p

Anyway. Yes I used to live with my parents studying  a career I don't like (architecture) in a very expensive university, 11pm curfews, barely any friends, not allowed to see the people I actually liked, swinging back and forth between anorexic periods and binge eating, not allowed to do anything without first asking for permission, an abusive yet rich boyfriend with a good family, and too much time spend brooding and wishing I was somewhere else. I was always trying to please everybody, getting nowhere.

What did I do when I realized that the people around me controlled my life because I was too weak to take control? Well, I ran away. Mind you, I was already an adult- 21 at the time, I'm 22 now.

It is the scariest thing I've ever done. I moved in to a small room in a house in the middle of nowhere, moved again closer to civilization, and moved again. I ended up renting a shared room in a building for college students and payed for it by working as a cashier in a fast food restaurant (unthinkable for my 'better than thou' parents to see their precious daughter in such a job, of course) But I didn't care. I was free at last and even though it is a very underrated job (all the pressure and condescendence) I finally felt it was MY life. After a month and a half of minimum wage, I got a job as an ESL teacher, so I had time to do things I like (read, play videogames, go out for a walk, talk to whoever I wanted to without first asking for approval..) Remember the abusive boyfriend? Even though I had time and freedom he managed to have me crying every other night. So I took courage out of nowhere and dumped him. I was completely alone.

Then I figured how much I've always hated that place. I had no friends there, no family now that they chose to ignore my existence, no bright future and so on... so I chose to move! I saved up every check I received for three months, barely buying any food, and I even did things I'm not proud of to earn more money fast. (I don't mean stealing. Let's leave it at that.) 

I packed my few belongings and flew over to Mexico City, the biggest city in the world. I rented a cheap 2mx4m room in an old lady's house and started from there. I applied for a job as a flight attendant and got it! :D I started training, and the company paid for lodging and meals, which is all I asked for, really. After that I started flying. What a beautiful job, I love it! As soon as I started receiving checks I moved in with a pilot, who happens to be an incredibly decent guy. No, there's no romance or anything like that, we're just roomies. And just today I sent an application form to study History in an ok college (not as expensive and prestigious as the one I was used to, but hey, I'm paying for it myself!) in a special program for people who can't attend regular classes. Next month I will take the admission exam and I will hopefully start out in February. 

Conclusion- 
I still don't have real friends, since no one knows my whole story so far, and I still spend most of my time by myself.. buuuuut I am now living on my own, I'm financially independent, I'm making a future that I like, about to study a career that I love and that fascinates me, I refuse to have an abusive boyfriend ever again, I choose to love my body, I grew up A LOT emotionally, I found out I'm stronger than I thought, I won't let anyone else dictate how my life will go...

Lessons & tips: Things I learned this past, very eventful year:

1- Health really is the most important thing in the world.
2- Sometimes you can only count on yourself. See #1.
3- Don't be afraid of change. Use it.
4- If you feel bad about doing something, then it's wrong for you. Stop doing it. Simple as that.
5- There's no harm in seeking what makes YOU happy.
6- You're the one who has to stop living when you die, so live accordingly.
7- No job is demeaning. No one has the right to make you feel less for earning honest money.
8- Stupidity is expensive. Learn from your mistakes!!
9- Being an atheist is no reason to insult other religions. Nor is being part of a minority a reason to be racist.
10- Money comes and goes. Just be careful, since it may take a while to return...
11- Be kind to people. Most of them will be kind in return, but someone has to start, right?
12- Stop comparing yourself to others. Compare yourself to the best version of YOU. Work with that.
13- Stay strong.


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Oct 12, 10:26PM PDT | 18 comments | 19 cheers


Comments:

Emoroz Do well at work and life! Reaching for the perfect balance!

Love It!!

Beautiful!

Oct 13, 12:13AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

oblea100x you came on your own, that's how you'll leave

Thank you :)

Oct 15, 12:08PM PDT | Respond to this

sekhmet1970

Inspirational

Well done on taking such positive steps to live the life YOU want and YOU deserve! x

Oct 13, 12:32AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

oblea100x you came on your own, that's how you'll leave

Thank you! It’s difficult but oh so worth it :D best wishes!

Oct 15, 12:07PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

fashtooka

family first

I kind of admire it, But hope u still talk to your parents and Family.

Oct 13, 12:37AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

oblea100x you came on your own, that's how you'll leave

I do talk to my sister, but she lives in a different continent :) My parents still haven’t come to terms with my new life, but I trust they will. And thanks!

Oct 15, 12:07PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

HeerenLo..x its been a while!

Amazing

Well done you :) you seem so positive and grown up x

Oct 13, 04:06AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

oblea100x you came on your own, that's how you'll leave

Thanks!! Being positive can sometimes save your life lol :D

Oct 15, 12:03PM PDT | Respond to this

lyrnsync Year of Dreams Come True~

=)

live with passion & enthusiasm !!!

Hope more and more good things in life come your way always. ^^

Oct 13, 05:20AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

oblea100x you came on your own, that's how you'll leave

Aww thank you! Best wishes to you as well n__n

Oct 15, 12:02PM PDT | Respond to this

BlackSwan90 At the end of this road I might catch a glimpse of me

Fantastic

Great story, thank you for your tips, inspirational! =]

(And Titanic? Love it! lol)

Oct 13, 05:50AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

oblea100x you came on your own, that's how you'll leave

lol yeah. Relating so much to Rose was kind of my wake up call; now I just need to find my Jack hahaha. Thank you :)

Oct 15, 11:57AM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

Logradora 7 weeks until winter holidays

Great lessons and tips

Oct 13, 10:43AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

oblea100x you came on your own, that's how you'll leave

I’m very glad you think so :) Thanks!

Oct 15, 12:01PM PDT | Respond to this

Dia

=)

right now im looking up to you!

Oct 13, 12:08PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

oblea100x you came on your own, that's how you'll leave

Wow, that means a lot :D Thank you!

Oct 15, 11:58AM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

mrsschapiro trying to be like pure sunshine

Great!

I loved that you changed your life.
Before, you were just existing…now you are truly LIVING.
Your life truly changed in a 360 degree.
Not everyone is bold enough to just pack away.

I once read in a magazine about this lady who was on vacation in Costa Rica or Puerto Rico and she loved so much over there that she quit her former life in the USA to teach English and surf the whole day.
She said she was much happier. I am sure you are too.

Oct 26, 01:42PM PDT | Respond to this

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Nov 01, 02:25PM PDT

sunnysummernight come take a walk on the wild side

omg are you for real? this sounds pretty amazing! i hope i’ll one day find a courage to do something like this too! you go girl!!!
best of luck.

Jan 07, 02:28PM PST | Respond to this


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