How to learn to love myself by cristaleena

"Getting out of your comfort zone"

How I did it: For me to do this, I lived in a developing country for 3 months. I had
to force myself to meet and know other people. I had to live in
conditions that I would never have done on my own. I forced myself to
be around other people. By socializing I was able to see how normal it
was to be me and that others really did like me for me. I traveled to lots of countries and saw a lot of new things that were
inspiring.I learned to accept compliments by saying Thank You. I traveled to lots of countries where I learned to appreciate things about myself and who I am/was. I learned to accept compliments by saying Thank You as a way of accepting who I was. I permed my hair straight with a Japanese straightening and missed my wavy hair appreciating who I was by making a mistake and then accepting it. I moved away and learned to appreciate the things that make me and to appreciate everything! I also learned to change my thinking with therapy. I learned to accept that things were great unless otherwise told. Things are great! So get out and doing things you'd never do might help give a new perspective and respect for your life. You might enjoy it and love yourself for doing it! I did/do and am happy. It is not easy, I must say. It is so hard to get out of our daily habits. But I can tell you to take things one small step at a time and don;t try to change everything all at once. I grew up in a Protestant Church and that never changed my outlook on myself. I had to take that on myself. God can't change me, I have to decide to do that for myself.

Lessons & tips: Believe in yourself and have no fear of failure. Failure is a way of learning. It is okay to fail, it's about not giving up after failing that makes the difference. The opposite of sucess is not failure, it's apathy.
Start by setting a goal for yourself that day. Then try to improve. When you've reached a level of satisfaction, you can move on to a second goal. For example, if you are shy, set a goal to look at people in their eye. The next month or so, try smiling at people. The next year try saying hello. We also think the worst, we should expect the worst and think the best. If you are able to find a spiritual path, I think that can help.

Resources: Therapy, Peace Corps, College, Reading Classics.


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Sep 14, 2008, 03:09PM PDT | 4 comments | 17 cheers


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Shiree

congrats… i am also trying to learn to love myself and find out what makes me happy!

So i’m giving you 5 smiley points for having the guts to do it!!! :) :) :) :) :)

Sep 24, 2008, 06:54AM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

jevaisbien

Ladies, it’s very simple to learn to love yourself, whether you were unloved as a child or have had unloving experiences as an adult. The secret is to finally realize deep within your soul that you are worthy of love because your Creator, God, loves you so very much. You do not have to do anything to win His love or to prove that you are lovable. You are loved, because He loves you. Now, let go of all the garbage other have told you about you & some you have even told yourself & don’t be afraid to begin loving yourself! Then, begin to love others, also. Good luck!

Dec 22, 2008, 10:32AM PST | Respond to this

Quaresma22

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the science of loving oneself is in reaching a deeper understanding of your real self. Its all about feeling good and having confidence that u look good in your eyes so others see you the same way. We live in society where other’s opinions matters for us and we try to socialize and live according to some rules and regulations. Loving yourself is the key to finding love accordingly too. And how can you love someone if you don’t love yourself. Positive energy goes to positive energy, you should never break this chain.

Mar 17, 06:02AM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer

Jared Waiting for Spring

” The opposite of sucess is not failure, it’s apathy.”

I think you may have changed my life. Thank you for writing this, it has helped immediately.

Thanks for doing this :)

Oct 10, 04:05PM PDT | Respond to this 1 cheer


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