How to learn how to take a compliment by ecoyes10

"The best thing I've ever done for myself. "

How I did it: Step One- I started to compliment myself and realize some of the things that I was good at or I could recognize made me a wonderful person. For example, I love to smile at strangers because it's the best thing I can do to a stranger to maybe get them through a day. I complimented myself for doing that, and accepted it.

Step Two- I realized that I'm not always the underdog. I always thought that I was. I never was sorry for myself, but I always thought that I was the bottom of the barrel at everything, and that is not the truth. I didn't realize that. I thought that people complimented me because they felt sorry for me. That was also, not true, and so I started to look at myself like a contender in everything that I did.

Step Three-  The hardest, but best part, was when I received a compliment for the first time that I took well. I got told by a friend of mine, Ella, you are seriously beautiful and smart. And I said thank you. Not, "No, I'm not, but you're totally gorgeous," and I didn't look away and blush and just shake it off. I smiled and said the two words I could never say to someone giving me a compliment. 

Step Four- This part is the easiest part by far, but it still takes effort. I decided to keep up with everything I learned. It's been tough and sometimes I can hear myself nagging at me to deny myself when I get a compliment, but it hasn't happened yet. I also started complimenting other people more because I noticed that not everyone thought like I used to when they get a compliment. That is the most fun thing EVER.

NOTE: The picture below is me receiving an honors award at my school. The award is for students who have an average in all of their core of above 85%. Mine was 90%, and it was the first time I was truly proud of myself. It was the fourth time I'd received the award.

Lessons & tips: 1. SERIOUSLY TRULY LOVE YOURSELF. Love your flaws and your little quirks. They're what make you gorgeous.

2. Write down the date that you first take a compliment well and write it down somewhere, and put it somewhere where you'll see it many times a day. Every time you take a compliment well after that write down the date on that piece of paper. It makes you appreciate yourself. 

Resources: Journal, friends, tea, music, and the outdoors


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Nov 10, 03:31PM PST | 2 comments | 8 cheers


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donnadonna9

Beautifully stated!

Nov 10, 04:57PM PST | Respond to this

gottawonder Loves her tortoise!

Way to go!

With your talents, I’m sure you can look forward to a whole lifetme of compliments. You better get used to accepting them graciously!

Nov 10, 06:30PM PST | Respond to this


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