How I did it: It started off on a Saturday morning when I was about to head off to work and my mom asked me a random question of why I was going to New York. And I stated I wanted to see a friend...(which was actually a girl I was seeing at the time). My mom asked me if I loved her and I said Yes. My mom had gotten furious and said to me "I won't allow it!" "Where did I go wrong?" And it literally had become a chaotic mess with her yelling at me.

I had to go to work, so again...disorganized...I was angry at my mom for yelling at me and saying she wouldn't allow me to be gay so I took off and drove off to work.

Once I had gotten back from work my mom and I had a talk and she was asking all these questions of what was wrong, how could I do this to her and so on.
I told her she didn't do anything wrong and that this is who I am. I told her she raised me right...getting good grades in school, working full time, and that I'm still the same person and that this is not a phase.

My mom stated she still loved me, but she still can't accept this part of me.
 So not all coming out stories get a real happy ending, but all that matters is that she says she still loves me. I'm 21 now and my mom doesn't bring up the subject of my orientation and we live a normal life like nothing ever happened. It just takes time for it to settle in my moms mind.

Lessons & tips: Definitely make time for you and your parents to sit down and talk with no distractions.

Be ready for any outcome.

Coming out to friends also helps because they'll be there to support you and also be there after the outcome of coming out to your parents to vent to.

I'm also willing to help or even just listen. :)

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Feb 07, 2012, 10:54PM PST | 3 comments | 16 cheers