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How I did it: I was just being me, all of me, and just being loving and helpful and kind for others and not expecting anything back.
I also kept high standards and knew what I wanted the most of things, going with my intuition and not going out with guys who (even though they might have been sweet) did not agree on the most crucial parts of my beliefs.
Then when I thought I would not find love, and actually did not care in the least bit, when I focused instead on other things, it found me!
Lessons & tips: You can find very nice people online, but you need to be very selective and ask probing questions and figure them out, be prepared for anything, and trust your intuition and gut instinct a lot!
How I knew he was the one for me, was that when I finally admitted that I liked him, he admitted the same as well, listened to every bout of mopey-ness I had, cheered me up, humored me, and all in all is like a wonderful friend to me!
That is one of the things that I valued highly, that the person who I loved would also be a great friend to me, and who would understand me inside and out, and even if he didn't understand, he was willing to.
So figure out what you value the most in a person, in your "one true love", what you value the most in general in people, people's actions to you, and look for them, stick by them, and use that as a way to eliminate the potential jerks.
Also! Don't sell yourself out to get a guy to like you! Don't change yourself in hopes to be the person that they will like. Don't undermine yourself! Just be the beautiful, wonderful you that you already are, comprimise a bit on the very minor issues, and stick to your values and ideals. And the right person will find YOU, and he/she will find you when you least expect it (meaning when you let your guard down, not evaluating people for what they could be to you, but just liking and respecting people for who they are)!
Resources: Believing in myself, loving who I am (ALL of who I am), letting my guard down and just being me (and only me, true to who I am) at all possible moments, and not actually looking for love. :)
And above all this quote:
"So many people look for the perfect person, and so few make themselves into that perfect person." - (I forget the author right now)
But basically I took from this the lesson of "don't look for your ideal person, instead become your ideal person, and your ideal person will find you!"