"I'm more selective now of how much I allow other people to influence me."
How I did it: I had a number of relationships that were toxic in different ways. Some needed cutting out, some needed repairing, and some needed cutting out for a little while in order to repair.
A major relationship needed this time apart, so a major part of this goal was to keep up with this.
Facebook culling was another. I'm one of those people that puts a lot on facebook, and I went through my friends list asking myself certain questions. e.g. "Would I want to share this much of my life with this person?" or even at some points "If I saw this person in the street, would I make an effort to stop and say hi?" and the answer to those questions decided whether they stayed or went. Also, it was important to detach myself from the now commonly held belief that if you unfriend somebody you are mad at them, plain rude and never want to see them again: which in some cases is simply not true.
I found myself focusing on people that mattered more to me, which made me form more positive relationships, and enjoy myself and my company a hell of a lot more.
Lessons & tips: Facebook friend list culling: The amount of what I refer to as "Politeness Friend adds" is just getting silly. Ask yourself if you will ever see them again and if you want them to know so much about you.
Beware phone contact culling: It's tempting to follow the same route as Facebook by getting rid of old contacts. However if they still have your number they can contact you. Nobody likes returning that missed call from an unknown number to find it's somebody that you didn't want to speak to and had deleted their number. Awkward...
Take this as an opportunity to add positive people to your life, not just eject those who are negative or have a negative effect on those around them.
Resources: Facebook in a round and about sort of way.
My exercise classes and Ju-jitsu classes also helped me to meet more people on my wavelength which helped me to build more positive relationships.
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