"I feel great."
How I did it: A big part of my success in this was getting myself out of a destructive environment. I love my dad, but living at home was bringing out the worst in me. I'm very privileged to have this option at this time.
Some of the other things I've done are get serious about meditating, get better pain management, and accept the fact that I'm an introvert who needs to fiercely guard my time alone.
I realized at some point that unmanaged pain/fatigue and too much social interaction were just sapping my emotional defenses.
I am much better now at recognizing when my energy is low, so emotion regulation is naturally harder. That's when I turn off the phone and watch some comedy, paint, read, and hula hoop.
When I take care of myself in these ways, I have this well of calm to draw upon when something upsetting happens.
Lessons & tips: Managing stress was important for me.
If there are people in your life who you often react to in anger, assess whether or not it's worth maintaining the relationship. (Doesn't work for bosses, unfortunately.)
Take the time to try to understand your energy levels and really notice what activities make you feel best. Do more of those things, if you are able.
Laugh every day.
Resources: I joined a meditation meet up group in my town that I found via meetup.com
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