How I did it: My husband and I had a good marriage but I wanted to feel like we were really a team, working together and making eachother happy. Not just falling into a routine and living with a roommate.
I started out by reflecting on the things I wanted to feel and then started to make adjustments in my own actions that made my Husband feel how I wanted, it soon turned into both of us caring about the other person. We also sat down and talked about what we liked and didn't in our daily routine. And made adjustments there. EX. I hated having to come home from 11 hour days and have to make dinner right away. So now we #1 make together and talk about our day or anything & #2 if I have a really bad day he starts dinner or cooks it.

It was all about compromising and putting eachothers needs before our own. It also helped to think every time I hated doing something, that he may not like doing it either.

Lessons & tips: Talk! Alot, in a calm relaxing enviroment, even over dinner out, and put eachothers needs and wants before your own.

Resources: 5 love languages is awesome! We also did a couples bible study, and we also wrote down things in a list form - things we like to do, hate to do, wish list etc- exchanged them and the things we had in common we started doing more often, Seeing the others persons thoughts was a great visual goal to try and reach.

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Dec 01, 2008, 01:49PM PST | 0 comments | 4 cheers