Sorry to know it was a bad experience to u,,
but may i ask r u back with ur husband again?? or did this ruin what was left??
micaeladyan is finally happy and able to enjoy life!
My marriage wasn’t ruined because of this…we had other problems related to our marriage that would cause it to fail, but by sheer miracle (and the intense love we’ve had since we were only 15 years old)- we were able to stay married and find a way to bring us closer together. Once our marriage was back on track, we decided to become Catholic again, (we hadn’t practiced since we were very young) so we took RCIA classes and then on Easter vigil we were to receive the sacrament of baptism. Becoming baptized meant that we were to be wiped away of all sin (at least this is what our priest told us). We finally sat down and admitted to each other any and all mistakes we had made within our lives to each other and to our priest (I know I’m sounding like we are some major “bible thumpers” but in reality, we just wanted to feel good about who we are again).
Anyway, I don’t believe that every relationship should admit to all wrongdoing. By admitting guilt, you are only releasing yourself of any pain YOU feel and thus could cause more damage to your partner when you confess. However, in certain instances like ours, it may be good for your marriage- especially if you sit down to have a real honest to goodness talk about what kind of people you’ve become, take ownership of what you’ve done, and move on to be better people- but I warn that this should only happen if you have a deep love for this person- not just a passing “crush”.
After our split, we finally realized just how important we are in each other’s lives. I’m not saying it’s been a fairy tale ending – in fact, we’ve had some pretty rough times since our separation almost 4 years ago- but we’ve also been able to experience some extremely wonderful times together because we were able to make it work. For example,after YEARS of infertility, this past spring we became pregnant, and I’m due very soon!
In conclusion, I know I did a weird take on the whole “I had a one night stand”- but I’ve actually had a few one night stands (not while being married of course!-just thoughout my dating life) and I can honestly say that NONE of the times that I slept with someone I wasn’t connected to were fun. I must be one of those people that must be in love before I can have a true orgasm. My husband is the only man to not only be able to let me enjoy sex, but he’s the only one that has ever been able to bring me to orgasm simply by kissing me. Now THAT’S quite a feat!
what an interesting
story…..:))
thank u for sharing this amazing story with me,,it made me feel good about how a couple could reach the limit of falling out,, and getting back together in such a strong bond,,,:)))
definitly YAYYYYY to true orgasms,,,:))
i had a 1 night stand as well,,, and didnt enjoy it much,,,:)))
micaeladyan is finally happy and able to enjoy life!
the weird thing is...
you are a guy…i really thought guys always had fun with one night stands because for guys- it’s not an emotional connection that they are pursuing, it’s the physical and they really could care less.
i have encountered only a very small number of men who really give a shit about sex- who it’s with and actually was worried about the next day. i have only had 3 one night stands (of the 6 guys i had sex with!) and 2 of the other 6 were my husbands! of the 3 night stands- one was a little whiney thing (which was weird b/c he was a star basketball player at school!), one was an army guy who tracked me down weeks later in another state and begged me to give him a chance, and the other was the one i initially wrote this about! he was awful! said all these great things (that sounded really awesome when i was drunk! lol!) but when i actually tried to contact him a few days later, he totally acted like he didn’t know who i was, and then he finally said, “don’t call me anymore!” and hung up.
so there you have it. personally, i just don’t think one night stands are worth it. and i hope anyone reading this at least goes into it with an open mind (and heart!) cause it’s possible to get hurt if you aren’t warned ahead of time! thanks for taking the time to write back!!
well
iam not one of those guys u r talking about,,:))
i realized i do care about the girl iam with as a person, not just some one for sex,
maybe if the girl was really interesting to me then the ONS would be good..:))
but i tried it once and it never happened agin,,
anyway..thanx for the nice talking, it was a healthy conversation..:))
