How I did it: For the last few years I've had a few partners here and there, some that last for a night, a few days or a few weeks. I was tired of being used by men not being honest with me (if you just want sex, that's fine! just don't lead me on then fuck off without talking to me). Every time I went for the guy that was nice to me, I ended up being screwed over somehow. Either because they were 'afraid of hurting me' so weren't honest with what they wanted (i'm a big girl, i can take the fucking truth!) and ended up lying and with each guy that did this, my self-confidence was chipped away at to the point where i was feeling pretty rubbish to be honest. So I decided what I wanted: I don't have time for a relationship, yet at the same time I don't want to sleep with randomers. I want someone that I can have a laugh with but also have a very fulfilling sex life with. So I decided to try a new approach: to only sleep with someone when *I* wanted to and not because they were nice and said the right things. From the start I was open: I just want to have fun, and we know that it's not going to result in a long-term relationship. I am in my final year of university as is he, we are 160 miles apart as it is and whilst I have very very little room in my life for a boyfriend as it is, I have even less room for heartbreak. Thus, we've been pretty much clear from the start at what's going on.

Lessons & tips: It's better to regret something you DID do, than something you didn't...

Resources: annsummers.com? hehe ;)

Dec 15, 2008, 08:55PM PST | 1 comment | 3 cheers