How to gain more confidence
How I did it: 1) A friend advised me to start looking after myself. Choosing clothes that flatter me (rather than throwing on jeans and a t shirt). I started looking after my skin and hair and wearing makeup most days. At first i thought this was shallow - as i wanted deep inner confidence, not just to look pretty. However, i severely underestimated the positive reinforcement that i got from friends, family and strangers!
2) I looked at some of the things that had knocked my confidence recently and i analysed the 'events' - what happened before, during, after... Was it really so bad? What could i have done better? Where did it go wrong?
*Note - this is really painful (and cringing) to do - but you get to know yourself better, learn to forgive yourself and you get some tangible, solid conclusions that you can learn from.
I still have the odd day where i want to retreat to a world of my own where no one can touch me... but it's no longer my default status.
Lessons & tips: New doors and opportunities started opening immediately... People are attracted to a good positive confident vibe.
I can't believe that i spent 27 years hiding in a corner :-)
Resources: Tony Robbins: The Edge.
Barbara De Angelis books
