How I did it: We got licensed as foster parents.  When she was placed with us, we quickly realized we wanted her forever so we sent a letter to the judge, stating if she became adoptable, we wanted her.  Even our other kids signed it.  We went to every court hearing, applied for and received de facto parent status.  We worked closely with all social workers involved and stayed on top of all paperwork.  From the beginning, we were told it was most likely going to happen (the adoption), but it was still very scary at times to think about not having her.  18 months later, it was all finalized and we left the courtroom for the last time.  She is amazing.  People often say, oh you are so wonderful for adopting her, but no, we get so much more from her.  She is a special needs child and I really encourage you to consider a special child.  It changes you in an amazing way!

Jan 09, 2009, 10:17PM PST | 1 comment | 2 cheers