How I did it: Well...to put it simply...I have always been the type of person to worry, excessively over things, whether they be in my control or not. I would worry until I literally was not enjoying the truly wonderful things in my life. By worrying, I was putting up a wall to all of the doors of opportunity to be truly carefree. Now, sure, it is virtually impossible for a human to be absolutely carefree, there is always one little thing or another that seems to irk us, however, it is in fact possible for a person to finally feel at peace within themselves, a peace that was never felt prior. How I did this exactly is not the easiest thing in world to explain. I can try my best though. After so many changes in my life in the past 4 to 5 years, I have changed, or rather grew quite dramatically. By “grew”, I mean intellectually as well as the assumed physical sense of course. A combination of school, exams, colleges, jobs, relationships, dealing with other people’s issues (as I seem to be a common person for people to migrate toward), I have learned something invaluable…
That thing is a combination of the list I have accumulated below. 

• Worrying about things that are not happening right now, in this precise moment is doing absolutely nothing…NOTHING for you except make you a.) Over think the matter at hand and b.) Upset yourself and ultimately others around you that care.
• Crap happens in life, and no matter how much you worry, cry or complain over them, nothing is going to change.
• When one door closes, another is surely waiting wide open if your heart is open and your mind is clear.
• Taking chances sometimes is for the best, and sometimes for the worst, that’s why it is called a “chance”, no one knows what is going to happen.
• Mistakes happen, learn from them, worrying about what happened yesterday is doing nothing for your tomorrows.

…and a big one for me personally…: Denying things are what they really are just because you wish it wasn’t that way will literally deteriorate one’s mind. Admitting something is in fact true will do wonders never thought possible.

Lessons & tips: Just take a read of this quote (this quote helps me along in a lot of important lessons I've learned, this one included):

...it is difficult to live in the present, ridiculous to live in the future, and impossible to live in the past. Nothing is as far away as one minute ago...

Resources: A patient person who knows me better than I know my own person at times (I've come to really think that), and an open mind to accept what's true and what needs to be done.

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Jan 24, 2009, 08:16PM PST | 3 comments | 6 cheers