How I did it: I've taken classes in crisis counseling before, so I knew that to let people talk about themselves first, especially if they were upset about something.  Ask open-ended questions, such as: "Tell me what you were feeling and what it made you do when he did that" instead of: "Were you mad?"

And I would watch myself, and notice when I would start to talk too much.  I also became less likely to talk about myself, and I was fine with that. I like my quietness more than the chatter.  I also have completed my goal of "don't blurt out" which really helped too.

So I was good at this before, and I am better now. So obviously this is one of those goals I won't ever 'finish', per se, but I'm confident enough to mark it 'done'.

Feb 01, 2009, 11:38AM PST | 0 comments | 4 cheers