How to stop comparing myself to other people by saaedah12

"I got myself back..."

How I did it: I never knew who I was... I only knew what I wanted to be.. to be beautiful, to be rich to be smart. To be all the people out there in the world but myself. I had such low self esteem and extremely low self confidence that it could be seen in my sheepish smile, soft voice and slightly hunched posture.

I used to look at other people and I thought I will become like them one day, more beautiful, with more education and richer. After many years, I've gotten more beautiful, and learnt to beautify myself too. I've gotten myself the education I wanted and I have enough money in my pocket.

But I realised that having all that didn't make me any happier, any more confident and I didn't love myself any much more. I was my worst enemy.

I hated looking at myself in the mirror. I hated myself so much that I was constantly thinking about the day when I will look like someone else, after I lose 30kgs. I lost 15 kgs and I was looking fabulous. But still, no confidence, no esteem and simply no respect for myself.

I was sick of living life like that. I had come to a point where I had everything but I still felt ugly because I kept thinking that there was a perfect way in which every woman should look like. How foolish I was. I was my worst enemy.

I wanted to get 'myself' back. I wanted to love myself but didn't know how. I read up on many books on unconditional self love. It took me years before I completely accepted myself for who I truly am.

Now I can say proudly, I love myself. I respect and honour myself and I am my own best friend.

To all of you who are struggling with yourselves, please help and redeem yourselves, because only you can help yourself. If you won't, who else will?

Lessons & tips: Love yourself unconditionally. Make it a point to respect and honour yourself. Speak kindly to yourself and never let other people put you down.    

Resources: Books, books and more books... all on the topics of self love, self esteem, weight loss (by Geneen Roth).


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Feb 04, 2009, 07:45PM PST | 6 comments | 11 cheers


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Perosky

I am so much in love with the members of this site, they are good friends you can count on!

Aug 02, 08:54PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

saaedah12 wants to master The Secret

Yes indeed… It’s a wonderful place.. :)

Aug 03, 08:39PM PDT | Respond to this

cajunpride121

Unconditionally!!!

I am so glad to read that you have figured it all out. It all begins with your inner dialog, your outer dialog, and the words that you WANT to hear spoken to you. If someone else isn’t saying to you what you want to hear….say it to yourself and mean it.

Your self esteem is attached to a sort of radio in your head, just remember that you control the frequency. If something that you don’t like starts playing, change the station and listen to something that suits you better.

Keep up the great work, and remember to enjoy the gift of your life. It has been given to you by God, and He wants you to be happy, loved and satisfied. After that…game over and you get to start a new life on the other side. Life is short, hating and begrudging, just don’t have time for them.

Have a blessed day!

Aug 16, 04:48PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

saaedah12 wants to master The Secret

Thank u so much for your encouraging post.. I agree that building up our self esteem is totally our business. Like u said, if we don’t hear what we want to from other people, might as well say it to ourselves… I like the way you put it ” Life is short for any hating and begrudging.. just no time for them.. ” Thanks…

Aug 17, 02:18AM PDT | Respond to this

cajunpride121

You’re welcome. And just for the sake of the question…Is that a picture of you? I mean for real? Assuming it is….You are beautiful!!!
Don’t go hating on THAT masterpiece, cause
God REALLY did you justice when He painted you. Have a super blessed week!

Aug 17, 04:05AM PDT | Thread | Respond to this

saaedah12 wants to master The Secret

Thank you. :) And yes… sometimes we’re too blind to see who we really are that we hate ourselves for no reason… thankfullly i’m out of that kinda thinking… you have a great week too…

Aug 17, 08:46PM PDT | Respond to this


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