How I did it: I figured out that if I listen compassionatly they won't complain as much. You can find more to like about a person if you listen beyond the negative comments. Take the small negatives they say in stride and with a grain of salt.

Lessons & tips: When someone is seriously draining you emotionally you should protect yourself by being as assertive as possible. However, if the person has positives to offer, listen their postives. All they may need is someone to listen

Resources: I read something about how negative people may be trying to get attention so I thought, "I'll give them more attention in just day to day conversation." This has really worked. I conciously have to remember it from day to day but it is unbelievable how well it worked for me.

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Sep 23, 2008, 09:20PM PDT | 0 comments | 2 cheers