Rio against City
omg.. very touching
this seems more like a movie script… this is priceless, sweetie :) mad props :O
How to find my biological father
It made me
feel more grounded 
How I did it: This was one of the most difficult decisions I have ever had to make. I grew up seeing my half sisters Dad as my Father. To the point where I chose to live with him rather than my mum when they seperated.
I basically came to the conclusion that meeting my biological father was something I needed to do. I wanted to find out if we were alike in appearance and in personalilty. I felt like I has betraying my "father" and that he would think that I didn't love or need him anymore. I ended up speaking to him and letting him know that I wanted to meet my biological father.
My Mother supplied no help what so ever, always stating that should the time come she would help me to locate my biological Father.. this was not the case.
Surprisingly my step dad was the key to the answers I needed. We searched the phone book. He called old friends, people who knew my mother and biological father.
After finding out his full name and date of birth, I thought google might be handy.
I googled his name and it appeared in the obituaries.. weirdest thing was I discovered this exactly a year after his death.
Never in my wildest dreams did I expect that this would be the outcome,
I don't think I am completely over the shock but I have learnt that it
is vital to love the ones you hold close, and now I have a whole new family to love!
Lessons & tips: Be patient.
Keep an open mind and open heart..
I learnt I had to forgive both my Mother and Father, after meeting the family of my biological father many stories have surfaced. All I can do is trust that both parties did what they thought was right at the time.
I had minimal expectations of this experience. I thought once it was all over and done and I found him, I would get to ask my questions and that be it...Even with low expectations I was at first extremelly dissapointed!
Resources: Play the detective!!! Collect as much info as possible and ask for help from the ones you love and trust.
Comments:
2LameDogs As I take a step to wish,dream,& do,I imagine an entire galaxy of hope
sooo familiar!
Hi Stacey,
When I read your first paragraph, I thought I was reading about myself!
"This was one of the most difficult decisions I have ever had to make. I grew up seeing my half sisters Dad as my Father. To the point where I chose to live with him rather than my mum when they seperated."The above is the exact same as me!I was 28 when my sister informed me. At first my mother was angry that I had been told & wouldn't talk to me about it. But within a few days all was good & she sat down with me, discussed all, answered all questions I had.At that time I searched for my biological father. I was able to find him, but the relationship was very short. Looking back, too much anger in me was prob the reason.
A year ago I contacted him again. The relationship now is good. I don't feel close to him, but at least I am getting to know him, and that is very important to me, as he is getting older.All my life I never fit in. Felt soo different from the rest of my family. Did you experience this as well?I am sorry to hear you weren't able to meet him. But it is good you are getting to know his (and yours) family :)
STACE_FACE has decided to embrace the chaos ♥
Wow! It amazes me that so many people have been in a similar situation!
I did feel different from the rest of my family! I didn’t feel as though I fitted in.
For a long time I was angry at my parents for being so selfish and inflicting such pain on me..
Had I have tried to meet him any earlier I would of been in exactly the same situation. Sabotaging the relationship because of all the bottled up anger.
But I’ve come to realise now that I wouldn’t be the person that I am today without having gone through all of that. And knowing that my ‘step’ dad was so supportive really opened up my eyes to how much he really does love me.
Meeting my ‘new’ family has taught me so much and helped me to better understand myself. Plus it’s a pretty good feeling to know I’m a living legacy and that they needed me even more than I needed them.
Shit happens so you can grow stronger! :)
I’m so happy for you! You pushed past your own pain so that a stranger at the time could feel even a little better about something that ultimately would of been the biggest mistake of his life.
Best of luck I hope you find everything you were looking for! x
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