How I did it: It was hard. We all say we want to forget about him and move on but then there's a big part of us that posts new pictures of us online for him to see; that goes to the club or party that his friends go to, looking amazing; we even bring him up into conversation with our friends every once in a while.

For me, we were together a little over two years and i REALLY thought i was in love.

So the ways i forgot about him were:

1. I took a break. Ever heard of the 60 day rule? it works- no contact whatsoever which includes no going where goes and ignoring him to fullest.

2. I made a break up playlist. It really helped me!! I didnt fill it with sappy heartbroken songs, i filled it with empowering songs like Irreplaceable (Beyonce) and things that made me look forward. Whenever i felt sad i would go there.

3. No talking about him with your friends. I said to my friends straight up - dont mention his name! Whenever i wanted to vent, i would write in a journal or whatever but your friends, they can really slow down the "forgetting about him" process.

4. I went out, had fun, bonded with my girlfriends, kept myself busy with college and my hobbies, i even flirted... you cant focus on two things at once so i kept myself focused on the fun.


& before you even realize, you wont care anymore or even remember that you're forgetting about him. When i see him out now, we say 'hi and bye' and his presence slips my mind. I never thought i could get to this point until one day my friend pointed out that i am. It takes time though, it really does, but for me, it was worth it.

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Apr 16, 2009, 04:49PM PDT | 0 comments | 8 cheers