How I did it: Josh and I were married for 5 yrs. we have three beautiful kids and that is the best I can say about that. things got very ugly with us, it was a controlling manipulitive screaming, dirty, scary place to be. Once I decided that was a step that needed to be taken, shortly after my son had to stand up fo rme mid fight, I took the steps in a manner that was not selfish, was not spiteful. I wated a year to do this because it gave me the chance to get over my self so I could make sound decisions. My kids are happy. Josh and I make decisions for the kids but lead seperate lives. That is all I care about. It was hard, but for me it was worth it. I hope I can find a marriage that dosent hurt. that will be a long ways off though

Lessons & tips: Find someone to talk to who is not in the loop, looking to obtain money from the decision, and can be unbias.  If children are involved PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE think of them.you should always do what is best for them, even if that means swallowing your pride.

Resources: There are a number of divorce support groups. I had one that I established a work. We called it the first wives club. we were all in the middle of it with children and it was helpfull to talk to people who understood what I was going through

May 04, 11:26PM PDT | 0 comments | 3 cheers