How I did it: At the beginning it was quite an adjustment when he would be gone for weeks at a time.  I spent the time he was home dreading the time he was going to be gone; the time he was gone was wasted fretting and being impatient for his return.

With time though, I relaxed enough to see plainly what a great opportunity it is and how positive it can be to be in the situation we are in.

He gets to earn a good living and travel, and when he is home he can spend all his free time on projects or anything we might plan.

The time apart really strengthens our communication- by benefit of having less time to do it we make sure to communicate most effectively.

When he is away I can take time to work on all the projects that I designate mentally as "my things" and tend to push aside until everyone else is taken care of.  Also I can spend time reading or walking without worrying or hurrying and relax in solitude like I used to be able to.

Lessons & tips: Instead of being sad or angry that we can't always be together, I can change my perspective and be happy that we do have the wonderful time together when we do, and thankful that I have someone so amazing in my life.

Resources: patience, solitude, perspective.

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May 06, 2009, 04:55PM PDT | 0 comments | 1 cheer