How to get over it by caffdolphgrl

"I think I'm over it now but there are more anniversary dates to come"

How I did it: 1-I accepted what happened
2-I read "Rebuilding When Your Relationships Ends" by Bruce Fisher
3-I let time take it's course
4-I distanced myself from him
5-I talked with friends
6-I did lots of fun things for myself
7-I made a point of doing lots of new things
8-I did stuff I couldn't do or was discouraged from doing when we were together
9-I made a point to prepare for big anniversary type days and holidays
10-I forgave

Lessons & tips: It takes time.  Therapy helped.  Having good friends and establishing a life separate from our life together really helped.  One of the most important steps for me was preparing for the big anniversary type days and holidays because I honored what we had had together but I really created a lot of new fun memories of my own.

Resources: Therapy.  "Rebuilding when your Relationship Ends"


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May 10, 2009, 09:10PM PDT | 2 comments | 6 cheers


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Caren Kate Cu www.ca2020.net

thank you..

”..i needed to read this.. thank you.. you made it sound simple and doable.. hopefully, i can also do this.. to move on..”

May 10, 2009, 10:00PM PDT | Thread | Respond to this 1 cheer

caffdolphgrl is a Self-Knowing Traveling Believer

Good Luck

I know how overwhelming it can seem. The steps seemed relatively simple but the emotions and time it took to get there were not. It’s definitely doable and worth it. Don’t get discouraged if it takes longer than you want it to. I know it did for me.

May 10, 2009, 10:06PM PDT | Respond to this


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