How to make new friends by StephCollao

"Gaining the friendship of one is more important than gaining the phone numbers of hundreds."

How I did it: It took me while to figure out what I needed to do to make more of an effort to meet new people. This is what worked for me:
*Be more aware of new people around you (at work, church, in the neighborhood etc).
*Always introduce yourself - don't be afraid to make the first move! There is no harm in a simple introduction.
*Make an effort to organize a social event to get to know someone better, and do it many times.
*Not everyone will be your friend, so don't give up after a few failed attempts. It's better to have a few good friends than a million casual acquaintances.
*Be a good friend to begin with. Friendship is earned, not bought.

Lessons & tips: I realize that there are so many wonderful people in the world, but not all of them are going to like me or want to be great friends with me and my husband. And really, that is okay.

Resources: Meetup.com is a great place to find local interest groups in your area to join (bookclub, scrapbook group, photography groups etc.). I recommend joining (free) and finding an interest group to become involved with. You will meet many new people that way.


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Jun 03, 2009, 12:36PM PDT | 5 comments | 5 cheers


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Geo58 Former NFL Pro Bowl Junior Seau dead at 43

I have been trying this ever since my

divorce; to try and make “new” friends, new relationships; I have many cyber friends but very few in real life.

Kudos. on completing your goal.

(((((((huggs)))))))

Love,

George ;)

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Jun 03, 2009, 01:00PM PDT

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One thing that I have to add is that at first I really needed to force myself out of my comfort zone. There were times when I was at a social event with several others and I would sit quietly by myself or only talk to people I know…then I noticed others who were alone or that I didn’t know and decided that instead of ignoring them I would introduce myself.
The more I step out of my comfort zone the easier it is :) Good luck to everyone!

Jun 03, 2009, 01:30PM PDT | Respond to this 2 cheers

myeagerbeaver ready to make things happen...whoop

Thanks!

After reading your ‘how to’, I signed up to Meetup.com and I am looking forward to meeting new like-minded friends. You are absolutely right about stepping out of your comfort zone. Today I am attending an Enchanted themed fancy dress party, and know only one person. I will do my best to take with me your pearls of wisdom and make the first move talking to people. There’s nothing to loose but friendships to gain!!

Jul 04, 2009, 02:30AM PDT | Respond to this


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