How I did it: I'd had his email address for years. I realised how much it was affecting me and that it was stopping me from moving forward in my own life. So one day I just sat down and wrote to him.

Lessons & tips: Only do it when you're ready. And do it for yourself, not out of a sense of family duty.

Once you've decided you want to do it, don't put it off as that can go on forever. The sooner, the better.

Resources: Talking to girlfriend, family and friends helped me work out whether I actually wanted to contact him or not.

I also saw a therapist. This helped me create a private space in which to work out what my *own* feelings on the matter were (as opposed to mother or sister)

Gmail! :) It stores all my old emails, so I still had his address

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Jun 04, 10:04AM PDT | 0 comments | 1 cheer