How I did it: So... it started the day after I allowed him to piss me off ONE last time. I I couldn't take it anymore and we broke up. I decided that if i was going to do it, i was going to put my all into it for the 60 days. I decided to delete his number (for the millionth time), take him off all my social network stuff, never stalk his FB, tell my friends we broke up and thats that. I even made the decision that for the following two months i would not go anywhere he was likely going, which was probably the hardest part.

At first, it was very challenging! He called me ALL the time! He stopped calling so often probably a bit into the second month BUT i NEVER answered the calls or read the texts or listened to the voice messages. I was shockingly very disciplined. I especially never spoke about him but ofcourse, I thought about him ALL the time.

Soon I got past the 'maybe breaking up was a mistake' into the 'this 60 day thing was a big mistake' to the 'what did i ever see in that guy?!' stage and soon found myself forgetting to even care.

It was last week, ONE WEEK shy of it being sixty days that i had reluctantly went out and accidentally saw him at a restaurant. right there. in my face. I was sooo unprepared! He was the same as usual, he acted like we were perfectly fine... like two whole months hadnt passed! He was very pushy but i tried to the best of my ability to discourage his behaviour. I was VERY close to falling back into the same trap but i didnt, i had come to my senses and i think the two months really helped me to see everything clearly.

Lessons & tips:
The most important lesson is that the two months are magical or anything. Everything takes time. So i will admit that i had expected to be over him in the two months and totally forget his very exisentence. But, it wasn't so. I still think about him now and when i saw him I did feel like I still did get butterflies (in a sense)but just like with an alcohol addiction, you may see people drinking alcohol and crave it but because your a wiser person, you know its wrong for you to drink it. I can say the two months were worth it because it allowed me to wisen up in a way i couldnt do otherwise.

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Jun 04, 2009, 10:28PM PDT | 1 comment | 4 cheers