How I did it: For years, I had been one to people please and try to tell everyone what they wanted to hear as a coping mechanism.

One day, I just got sick of doing it and made the dedication not to do it anymore. It was hurting me and actually putting me into even more dire straits when I did tell lies [so-called little white lies], so I worked towards eliminating them by actively catching myself in the middle of them.


Eventually, I got to the point where only a few situations will have me retreating back into the shady protectiveness of a lie but, for the most part, I'm honest now.


I would love to get to the point where the only time I'd tell a lie is to save someones life.

Lessons & tips: Make an active dedication NOT TO LIE. The rest of it is your own hard work and will power. It's not easy at all but its super rewarding.


A tip could be to make something for every lie you catch yourself in. I tend to knit and, when I catch myself in a lie, I go to the needles and work something out.


Not only is it a none too subtle reminder that I did catch myself in a lie but it's a positive product made as a result of a negative situation. I then give the items away.

Resources: Knitting Help
My own willpower

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Jun 06, 2009, 01:09AM PDT | 2 comments | 1 cheer