How to become more outgoing
How I did it: I just gave up "trying to be more outgoing" and let myself just be me. I'm still shy sometimes. But i've come to realize how people work. It's unrealistic to expect me to be as outgoing as the most socially-inclined person at school. She's wired that way and I am not. Satisfaction is the key ingredient here. Worrying about how not-outgoing I am just made me nervous. So I warmed up to people slowly and gained their trust as they gained mine. I used them as a crutch in tough situations where I knew few people and our circle began to expand, until we were the life of our own party. :)
