How I did it: I consider myself fortunate, at 38, to have gotten pregnant this easily. When we weren't pregnant after 3 months of trying, we set up a few tests with our doctor to find out if anything specific was preventing pregnancy. (Turns out I was already pregnant at that visit.) In fact, I had an ultrasound test scheduled for yesterday, the day I discovered I was pregnant, just to make sure everything was all right down there. Needless to say, I canceled it when I suspected something was up.

Lessons & tips: The sexual closeness that my partner and I share is really important to me, and I wanted to be really careful it didn't turn into a babymaking project and lose the fun and sexiness and spontaneity we currently enjoy. So each month I looked online and checked when my most fertile days were, but I didn't make sex into another thing to check off the to-do list. I did initiate sex during that time, but I never said, "Let's go make a baby" or talked about liklihood of conception or anything. I figured it would happen on its own and I didn't have to try too hard. Just have sex, and let nature take care of the rest! There was at least one month (finals week at his school) when we didn't have sex even once during my most fertile time. Getting pregnant was important to me, but keeping our sexual joy and spontaneity and loving connection was just as important.

Resources: Online fertility predictor websites: there are tons of them, and as far as I could tell no one was significantly better than the others.

Jun 12, 2009, 03:38AM PDT | 2 comments | 11 cheers