How I did it: before... i knew mom was not proud of me (she had reason, but still..), we did not have good communication, and because of this there was no real mother-daughter relationship to be had.  it made me feel depressed, unwanted, and generally worthless. 

then...  little by little i had to take action if this was ever going to improve.  that was the biggest step, to stop waiting for my mom to fight for me back, and do the fighting for our relationship myself.  i started by not attacking her, when she disappointed me. then i would begin asking for mother-daughter time, especially when i needed to vent.  most importantly i began to pray, and asked Jesus to heal us as individuals, and our relationship.  this snowballed into a closer and closer bond between us.  and now when im upset she hugs me, and comforts me, a prays for me, like a real mom. 

now... i feel like a vital part of me has been restored.  now that im getting my mom back, it feels like everything else in my life can fall in place.

Lessons & tips: you have to be an active participant in your mother-daughter, mother-son relationship.  you can't just stand by and expect your parent to be an ideal one.

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