How I did it: I tried, and failed, and tried again. I still occasionally fail, but I've gotten so good trying again that now it's a seamless process. Success doesn't mean not failing, it means having the tenacity to keep on going regardless of setbacks and failures.

Lessons & tips: Become your own most trusted friend, advisor, and mentor. If you're

really needy, experiment for a while with thinking through your

decisions and plans as if you were your own parent. Don't second guess

yourself, and remember that if you make a mistake, it'll almost always

be OK. As long as you don't cause irreparable harm to yourself or

anyone else, be confident in the knowledge that no matter how badly you

fuck up, you can probably make it better. Don't take yourself too

seriously, and remember that you only get one life, so (within reason)

do whatever it takes to enjoy it!

Always know what you want. If you don't know what you want, then ask yourself honestly. If you still can't figure it out, pretend you know what you want. You'll know soon enough, and in the meantime don't worry about it, just enjoy yourself.

Resources: Google calendar helped in that it let me organize my academic, social and work life in one place and most importantly, you can set reminders for yourself with it about due dates, events, or just random things that you need to remember, and you can send them to your email or phone via SMS. My Mom uses post it notes for reminders. My Calendar sends me text message reminders at the precise minute I need to receive them. Who needs a secretary when we have the Internet?

For men, I recommend reading an ebook by David DeAngelo or "The Game" by Neil Strauss.

Jun 25, 09:21PM PDT | 0 comments | 1 cheer