How to let go
How I did it: I tried, and failed, and tried again. I still occasionally fail, but I've gotten so good trying again that now it's a seamless process. Success doesn't mean not failing, it means having the tenacity to keep on going regardless of setbacks and failures.
Lessons & tips: Become your own most trusted friend, advisor, and mentor. If you're
really needy, experiment for a while with thinking through your
decisions and plans as if you were your own parent. Don't second guess
yourself, and remember that if you make a mistake, it'll almost always
be OK. As long as you don't cause irreparable harm to yourself or
anyone else, be confident in the knowledge that no matter how badly you
fuck up, you can probably make it better. Don't take yourself too
seriously, and remember that you only get one life, so (within reason)
do whatever it takes to enjoy it!
Always know what you
want. If you don't know what you want, then ask yourself honestly. If
you still can't figure it out, pretend you know what you want. You'll
know soon enough, and in the meantime don't worry about it, just enjoy
yourself.
Resources: Google calendar helped in that it let me organize my academic, social
and work life in one place. It may seem counter intuitive, but the more organized the easier it becomes to let go because the basic structure of your life starts to run on autopilot, leaving you more time and energy to focus on what matters. The best feature of Google Calendar is that you can set reminders
for yourself about due dates, events, or just random things
that you need to remember, and Google will send them to your email or phone
via SMS at whatever time you specify. My Mom uses post it notes for reminders. My Calendar sends me
text message reminders at the precise minute I need to receive them.
Who needs a secretary when we have the Internet?
For men, I recommend reading an ebook by David DeAngelo or "The Game" by Neil Strauss.
