How I did it: On my 30th birthday, I realized that I didn't want to spend another 30 years floating, being unhappy and angry. I wrote 30 things I wanted to feel and do before I was 60. The main goal on the list was to point myself towards happiness. I'm 35 and still have a lot to do...It wasn't easy(slipped many times) but I think I'm getting some of my goals done. :)

Lessons & tips: Took me 30 years to figure out that without me as the Chief, CEO....lead woman of my life..that I would not have the things I want and enjoy at the present time. No good friends/people around me, no good relationship with my family, no bills paid, no hope or not deciding how much I matter to my life etc. I'm the king on my chess board who gets to decide and react in a world where anything can happen(as it should).  This is why I'm my soul mate till the day I die.

Trust yourself first. If you need help, get different points of view, mentors, advice etc...Ask!! - there's no need to paddle upstream with your hands when you have the option of a speed motor - only remember that you're the one who gets to decide on the direction.

Also learned that controlled self unhappiness can be a bad vice - it gave me purpose in past to be a victim, to whine and the permission to not do anything for myself.

Resources: Everyone, thing and every negative/positive event in my life. Grab what you need to help you focus on your values, goals and journey. Know that everything you do or don't is an action. Every action had reaction. That's great power so never underestimate your value.

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Whatever road I take, the guiding star is within me; the guiding star
and the loadstone which point the way. They point in but one direction.
They point to me.
- Ayn Ran

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Jul 07, 2009, 02:00PM PDT | 0 comments | 3 cheers