How I did it: I can't say that I actually 'did' anything. It was just a case of letting time heal the wounds. I guess you can only like a person who doesn't like you the same way for so long. Moreover, this guy remained one of my close friends for weeks after my unrequited feelings were our common knowledge.


Even though I never got over these feelings then, I was learning more and more about him. I must admit that I wasn't such good friends with him before I fell for him. Knowing more about him sorta... well, just made me realise that he wasn't the type of person I would even want to be acquainted with. I like my friends to have an open mind and enthusiasm about the variety in life. However, being with him could turn one downright pessimistic.


I suppose that was what influenced 'getting over' process, too. He had seemed so interesting from afar but a closer look only left me with feelings of disdain.


However, I am still happy for this experience because it taught me a little about what's not love. Because my original feelings must have been shallow as I was not able to accept the true person inside. We hardly talk anymore because I don't like his company at all now. Sometimes, I feel he realised this much before I did (he's two years older than me and much less impulsive than I am - a trait which I disliked, by the way).   

Lessons & tips: There's really no thing as 'unrequited' love, I think. If it's true love, it works both ways. Otherwise, it's just an obsession on the part of one person. And it doesn't just hurt the person who's carrying these feelings, it also affects the person who you believe has hurt you. It is a feeling that only hurts - it's like wanting something you're denied even more. Be careful and do not confuse these feelings with 'love'.     

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Jul 09, 2009, 06:27AM PDT | 0 comments | 1 cheer