ncrozier sick and wants to get better!
I cried a little when I just read this.
I’m having such a hard time trusting my boyfriend, yet he trust me 100000%. We’ve been together for 3 years this December with a 1 year break (August to August, my decision) in between. Before the break, I trusted him as much as he continues to trust me. But because he almost asked another girl out toward this past spring that he really liked (she said it’s be a bad idea because she’s going to college), I suddenly feel like I’m not as pretty or as fun as she is and that he might wish he still had her instead of me sometimes (keeping in mind that I dated MANY more guys than he did girls). Yet he tells me every day that he loves me and I know they haven’t spoken since the end of June.
He does NOTHING to make me think he's being physically or emotionally unfaithful, yet I always feel like I'm maybe not "that great" anymore because this girl was SO gorgeous to him and he had so much fun with her.
It helped to read from another person that it takes time and patience, but that I will actually be able to trust him fully again someday because I know he deserves it.
kaylarobertson doing really well: trying really hard and VERY VERY proud of herself.
I know how you feel
Jon admitted having a crush on a girl we both know before he started dating me. This probably comes up once a week now. And girl, you’re gorgeous ;) So hush up and let him love you :p I know it’s easier said than done but you’ve gotta try a little trust.
Also, what help is worrying going to do? You have to enjoy what you have. If he wishes he had her that’s his problem and you worrying about it doesn’t do anything. You can’t do anything besides try to feel better about the situation- you’re just torturing yourself, as helpless as you feel.
I’ve made Jon into something of a counselor. He’s really good at telling me mentally healthy things that I need to hear. Try having him create a list of things that he loves about you- just you. What makes you special and what do you bring to this relationship?
If you’re not talking to him about these feelings, that’s your first step. Always the first step. If you haven’t told him that you worry he wants her back over you then ask. “If she were to come back into our lives, who would you choose?” If you can handle the answer, I think that would be a good question to ask. I’m betting he’ll say you. Additionally, that’s a hypothetical. If this helps you more- deal with the reality- she’s gone and you have him. Enjoy him!!!
Take care hon and keep me posted :) <3 You have my best wishes and I'm here if I can be of any help.