How I did it: I used to get bullied horribly by someone close to me. They said I was stupid, ugly and uninteresting, and I started to believe them.
When I finally got out, the emotional and mental scars were still there. I would worry terribly about what people thought of me, wanted them toaccept me to prove to myself that I was not as worthless as I'd been
told, always being reliant on other people's opinions of me as my self-esteem had been diminished by years of verbal abuse.
All you can do is just to MAKE A DECISION that you ARE a great person, that you ARE lovely and gorgeous and funny and sweet; because if you don't believe it, people can tell you as often as they want and you will never fully believe them.

Lessons & tips: - Have a mantra. Keep telling yourself in your mind 'I am nice, I am interesting, I am pretty, I am lovable' over and over. Give yourself some positive pep talk! I used to have a badge that said 'I'm not perfect but I'm lovable', which was a good start. Now I know I am just perfect the way I am ;)
- Most people who are nasty to others do so to make themselves feel better. They just want a door mat to boost their own pathetic egos. Be strong, and walk away, and don't believe a word they say, no matter how difficult it is. Laugh at them if you can.
- Be nice to yourself. Even a bit of retail therapy can help. I found that getting my hair done or buying that dress I always wanted but never thoght I was pretty enough for really boosted my self-esteem. It's not an excuse to go fishing for compliments, it's a chance to make yourself feel pampered and bring out the best in you.

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Aug 14, 06:53AM PDT | 0 comments | 4 cheers