How to control my anger by zeknir

"don't just learn how to deal with your anger, learn what causes it, and change the causes."

How I did it: after i broke up with my ex, i realized that he was the cause of most of my frustration and anger. i have realized when i am not overwhelmed with anger and annoyance 24/7, it is a lot easier to deal rationally with the anger that i cannot avoid. my boyfriend and i have somehow wordlessly figured out how exactly to deal with each other's anger. our first fight went pretty smoothly, and since, the small arguments that we do have are easily settled. i have seen it in action, without really trying to do it, just because i didn't want to hurt him. now that i have realized what to do, it seems so easy. but really, it depends on who you're dealing with how easy it is going to be.

Lessons & tips: 1. think things through thoroughly before you say anything. very thoroughly. think about what you say and how you say it.

2. don't jump to conclusions.
3. take a few minutes, or hours, and some easy breathing, and some calm thinking.
4. calmly talk it out. don't interrupt. say everything you feel you need to say, get you're whole point out. and listen to what they have to say in response. 
5. don't just be finding things to argue about. if this is the case, the person you're having nothing-fights with is detrimental to your health. you don't need them so close in your life.


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