How to get over my ex-boyfriend
How I did it: Firstly I acknowledged that all the crap I was feeling in regards to him --bitterness, pettiness, longing-- were valid. It wasn't always easy (I'm the type that just likes to indulge the anger and deny the grief part), but when I confronted what I was ACTUALLY feeling, rather than obsessing over what I thought I SHOULD feel, I was able to let go and move on. It also helped me to just put my head down and take it one step at a time ---just keep moving, just keep moving.
I DID make contact with him too soon, before I was over him.....It was a mistake to do so, (it always is) but I also remembered to forgive myself for indulging in behavior that resulted in more hurt and embarrassment. It's only natural to lack grace and foresight when you're in an emotional crisis. FORGIVE YOURSELF and start fresh tomorrow.
I now live in South Korea, teaching English in a hagwon. I've managed to lose 27 pounds thanks to the strange food here and frequent walks. Everything to do with my former life is far removed from me now and that really helped. Finding fulfilling work also really helped. And of course, a fresh romance with a cute Austraillian teacher certainly helped as well. ;)
Lessons & tips: 1) Get as far away from him and everything that reminds you of him as possible. (Moving to another hemisphere, really helped me ;) ).
2) Throw out (or lock away if you must keep a few things) EVERYTHING that reminds you of him.
3) Most importantly, don't contact him until BOTH of you are over it and in new relationships, if ever.
4) When things blow up in your face because you broke the aforementioned most important rule, forgive yourself and start fresh tomorrow. (We all made the same mistake).
5) Write affirmations to yourself EVERY morning. i.e. "I'm salty and sexy and irresistable." "My warmth and pure heart will attract true love like a magnet."
6) Unfriend him on myspace, facebook and whatever else.
7) Pamper yourself every chance you get.
8) Do some of the things, you'd sacrificed for him. For example, I got a cat after breaking up with an ex who was allergic.
