How I did it: I guess there's not much you can say to help people love themselves like they "should" do. I've never had many friends, and I used to be really really insecure. But what I realised is that I did have friends, and eventually I worked out why: because I was a nice person :) it's a lot longer than that though, a lot of it was coming to terms with the fact that I was very different from everyone else, not in appearance, nothing physically different, just the way that I was. I have always been a strange person, and I always will be, and now I am comfortable with being my own crazy self. :)
For years and years now, after the summer holidays I told myself: things will be different this year, I'll be confident and happy, and I'll make new friends. This is the year when it finally happened, and it's so great to be happy again after half a year of gloom *does little happy dance* I can look myself in the mirror and not flinch away but smile and be happy with the way I am!
Lessons & tips: Hmm...lessons. Well, I think my number one tip is don't try and be something you're not. Most people will have realised this anyway, but believe me, if you ever consider it, don't do it, because in the end you're just lying. You need to be happy with the person that YOU are.
Another tip is to just get out there and do things, you have to try and forget your inhibitions. It's difficult, and you have to take small steps. If, like me, you're a bit different from other people, that's okay. I rarely go out with friends and much prefer my own company, if you're happy on your own, then do your own thing. :)
You have to do what you want to. Dress in the way that you want to, and don't think about what other people think. If you see people staring at you (sometimes everyone seems to be!), then stare at them back.
That's all I can think of now, message me if you need any other help.
Resources: Having good friends will help you feel comfortable with yourself. Unfortunately, I never trusted my friends much, so coming to terms with me was something I had to do by myself. So hey, it's possible.
acapella is letting go of past mistakes
it is such a relieve to find other who are also going through this.I have been living with depression for the last 10 years and struggle with loving and accepting myself for who I am.
I have,however, realised that being myself and accepting my mistakes has helped me to like myself better.
I am now full of hope that one day I will be happy and proud of who I reallly am.
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