How to stop caring what other people think of me by invormation

How I did it: First out, I just thought, who do you spend every second of every minute of every day of your life with? Not your boyfriend or parents or spouse or brother or your best friend, that's for sure. YOU are the only person that you spend all of your time with. Why care about other peoples' opinions who are just passing through?

At the same time I figured that out, I realized how crappy my self esteem was. Worrying about how other people thought of me got my self esteem below zero, and I was really depressed all the time, and then no one wanted to be around me. How can I live knowing that I hate myself probably more than anyone else, and in turn push everyone else away who actually likes me? 

So I stopped doing things for other people, and did things for myself. This gave me a cool attitude that attracted other people, but by that point I didn't care if I had those people or not. This effect was a weird one - I ended up not caring about anything; I realized that either way I was completely alone. So this whole thing ended in me being pretty apathetic about life, and almost as depressed as I was before.

You do have to care about what other people think of you. The difference, to make yourself happy, is to only care about the judgements of the people you care for. I care about my boyfriend's opinion of me, I care about my best friend's opinion of me. I don't care about many other people, and so I don't change myself for them. I only change when, for example, my boyfriend and best friend think I should AND I think I should.

Lessons & tips: Don't alienate people in the process. Select a few people to care about that you respect and know that they care about your well-being. Listen to them, and take their opinions into account when you're making a decision.

You have to build your self confidence a great deal before you can truly accomplish this goal.


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Sep 17, 2009, 12:31PM PDT | 0 comments | 4 cheers


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