How I did it: i tried a lot of things. therapy, support groups, moving. each of them helped a little. but the wisdom that i needed appeared out of no where. it was few and far between. once in a while someone would speak something that really stuck to me. and that's what i would base my life around until i came to the next thing.
the past is really enticing. its so easy to dwell and nourish the desire to look back into the past. no matter how much you examine your memories, it wont fill the hole inside you.
you should examine the emptiness- yourself. each time you leave something behind or are forced to leave something behind you learn something you change; but that change can be for the better.
life is hard and there is a lot of suffering involved. don't become a victim of it. everyone has been through difficult things. and it is much more respectful to remember that sometimes people are trying to give you 'the cock up the ass.' but you don't have to take it personally.
Lessons & tips: learn from your mistakes. but don't crucify yourself. if you're in the past you'll miss out on new opportunities.
Resources: psychology. buddhism.
barbar_ella tackling her brain
i wrote this and i feel that its really preachy and far out.
it can be really hard. all i can really do is let this stuff pass over me as quietly as i can and then move on to not caring again. thats how it works for me anyway. try not to focus on the insanity between your two ears. try not to hate because hating doesn’t accomplish anything.
